There are many ways to get what you want in this world, and there are many books and articles that will tell you the secrets to doing so. The important thing to remember, however, is that we are always getting results based on our actions. Though, sometimes, those results do not reflect what we thought we wanted. I am an advocate of the notion that what we receive is a result of the energy we put into our endeavors. And, often our energy is not a pure reflection of what we think we want. Hence, the common situation of people being in relationships they hate and vehemently claim they want out or change. It would seem, therefore, that what is needed to achieve the desired results is not a change in circumstance (something beyond you) but a change of perception and energy (something within and something within your control and immediate influence).