Have you started dating someone whom you felt was on par with your desired attraction? Was this person the potential "one"? Did you find your first date full of magic and ecstasy? Did you then discover that this person wasn't really your type? Are they now more of a nuisance than a pleasure to be around? Do you find yourself avoiding their calls or cringing your scheduled date?
If this is the case, than not only are you asking for drama in your life, but you are feeding off of the sensation of power. By power I mean power over another being. To turn away someone who is throwing themselves at you is to dominate that person. Perhaps you feel weak in other areas of your life or perhaps this is the sort of pattern you've been acting out for decades. Either way it is an unhealthy and detrimental aspect to your growth as an independent and strong individual.
The real question is: Are you just into feeling powerful over others?