Being dominant is not a negative thing. We human beings, no matter the argument, share some very similar traits with our animal kin. We have certain drives, drives such as hunger, sexuality, territorial claiming, a need for security and so on. In particular, one of the traits we share with many animals is our pack oriented trait. Just look at a map. You will see that human beings cluster together wherever they go. You yourself might notice a desire to attend a public shindig simply because there are a large number of people gathering.

Being a pack oriented species means that we have different positions within the "crew". Some people are naturally leaders; others are great at diffusing arguments, while others have a different function. All members are supportive of the total. In short: We are all part of the total.

Now, because our society has grown twisted in many forms, people who are now placed in positions unnatural to their nature. An example of which would be when someone tries to take advantage of you through manipulation of any sort. This is the opposite of true leadership and it is your opportunity to assert dominance. Regardless of your role in a social setting you are ultimately the leader in your life. If someone has stepped beyond their role and is using an energy that clearly feels "wrong" or "unhealthy" this is your opportunity to shine.

Here are a few pointers:

1. Remove emotion (wait until its gone, meditate, take a walk)
   
2. Remove the idea that its personal (people are ignorant out of habit, not by choice, hence the word IGNORance)
   
3. Find out what you want (make it clear within what you want or what you need to happen)
   
4. Be honest with yourself (if you won't, who else will?)
   
5. If you find yourself angry, sad or heavy with any negativity, understand that you are feeling powerless and are unconsciously hoping your emotion will change the other's behavior
   
6. Being in control of you is being your own master (no one can control you, therefore, you control your fate)