Do you find yourself getting angry your dog for barking? Are you irritated by the sound of a crying baby? Does it bother you when your significant other asks you a question you find irrelevant? Have you ever stopped to wonder why that is? Have you ever pondered the notion that your irritation, anger or frustration just might be your responsibility and not someone or else'?

How could that be? How could someone else irritating behavior be your responsibility and not theirs?

Perhaps the reality is not that they are irritating, but that you are irritated and are projecting blame onto them. It is much easier to blame someone else for the way you feel than to take the weight of responsibility. Also, we are bread in a culture to believe that someone must be blamed for all bad deeds, even if it is ourselves.

Perhaps this is the reason prison inmates get worse in prison instead of coming out rehabilitated. After all, how do you blame a dog for barking? Is it not better to understand why he barks and so change the behavior through response instead of reaction?