"Change We Can Believe In"
This is a slogan. But, what does it mean? More importantly, how can we bring about this change?
First, we need a catalyst. We need something to light the fire of change. Often this comes about through an undesirable condition in our lives. For me, one of the great catalysts was a previous relationship. This is something most of us can relate to. However, it seems that most do not see the torture of a past or current relationship as a beneficial situation. Instead, we often become consumed by the pain or pleasure and lose insight. And, yes, pleasure can lead to torture, especially in a relationship. If all you do is seek pleasure from a relationship you will invariably be tortured. Remember that relationships can be pleasurable but are not the root of pleasure. The root is within and inside and in order to allow for change to happen we must see that our pain does not come from any external situation or person, but from ourselves.

We are the source of pleasure and pain.

The catalyst is what helps us see that.