There are many unquenchable desires that exist in intimate relationships. Aside from the obvious, the most common desire is that of the need for excitement. Nearly all people exhibit this behavior, but rarely are people aware of it. Things usually start off "perfect". You meet each other, there seems to be a pull towards the person so strong you cannot help but feel it is beyond you. The courtship goes spot on. He's Mr. Cool and calm, somehow finding a way to impress all of her friends. She's a catch with her balanced display of sex appeal and respectability. And then it happens, that magical moment of intimacy. All seems perfect. Love blossoms.

But, 6 to 12 months down the line things aren't so new. The initial appeal is over. Things seem monotonous and somewhat bland. However, there is a new way to keep the juices flowing. The first fight breaks out. You get over it, but it seems to give way to other arguments. Now, the blood pumps over little things. There is an addictive need to complain to your friends about the other person's behavior. Things heat up even more and on and on until the negativity is too much for the body and mind to take.

Is this the cause of a bad spouse or is this the result of an inner monster that has been dormant for so long and now has its outlet?