With a human mind it is difficult, perhaps impossible, to be totally free of illusions. We conceptualize everything. Our environment, our relationships, even ourselves become just another figment of our mind's imagination. So rare are the times when we actually let go of our concept of reality and just observe it. This behavioral tendency lends itself all too often to the "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts" of daily living. The problem is outside of moral delinquency, nature does not embed within us the massive list we are expected to know. Furthermore, we are always encountering situations that defy the things we "should" or "shouldn't" be doing. Often, this list comes up in relationships, life courses (and expectations) and daily activities. But what happens if someone does something they "shouldn't" be doing? If you aren't married, ask someone in a marriage how motivated they feel when their spouse tells them what they "should" be doing as a wife/husband.

Should is a dangerous word. It implies that reality is wrong, as if somehow the great laser that is reading the DVD of "My Life" is somehow playing it wrong. This, of course, simply is not true. The grandest illusion is the one we play on ourselves. Life is ever changing and constantly brining us hurdles to jump, it doesn't care if you have a broken leg.